Apologies for my absence. I have had my children for the last 10 days, and have been spending every moment of it making memories.
Because I have been alienated 2000 miles away from my children, it appears that I spend a lot of money on them. When they come to town I try to plan special events, and take them on adventures. The alienating parent will try to use this as evidence for greater financial support. My ex mentions it every time I make a reasonable request. “Well, since you can take the kids everywhere and buy things they don’t need,” are typical general statements. They are either so short sighted they cannot see the truth or may be truly that delusioned.
In my situation, she has been allowed to move my children 2000 miles away. I miss out on a lot. I don’t get to be a part of important and every day memories. I don’t get to attend school functions or even pick the kids up from the bus stop. I don’t get to take my daughter to taekwondo. I have missed my sons entire soccer season and most of his basketball season already. In short, we do not get to make memories.
Enter my short and infrequent visitations. I get my kids in 10 day bursts, thusfar. I have missed out on being a part of so many memories that I feel the need to make as many quality ones as I can in my short visits. Travel alone, to get my children to Kansas, has cost me over $1000 per trip so far. The memories that we have made have been far more costly, but it is worth it. If they came to visit and we just sat here and watched movies, they would likely have no memories of me in their childhood. I will not do that to them. I will not let that happen to me. We will make the best of our situation every time and a big part of that will be making memories.
So, I may not even know when they will come to Kansas this summer, but I will start planning our adventures. This summer will be so great that they will forget that Oregon even exists.